Friday, June 26, 2015

#LoveWins and the PATH it took to get there!

November 18, 2003
I remember where I was on November 18, 2003 when Massachusetts declared a gay marriage ban unconstitutional.  I was working at an insurance investigations company sitting in my quaint office.  At the time, I was the token gay guy at that organization.  After all, it was insurance investigations.  Anyway…no one in the office seemed to understand the depth of my happiness and quest for equality, but in time, they would.   This was the very first time I felt less than in life.  Do you remember where you were?

November 4, 2008
I remember where I was on Tuesday, November 4, 2008 when California voters adopted a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage.  I was at the Abbey in West Hollywood.  We were all jumping for joy that Barack Obama had just won the presidency, however, the next moment when the California decision was announced, there was such a silent sound of devastation, it was eerie.  It was the second time I truly felt I was a lesser equal.  Do you remember where you were?

June 26, 2013
I remember where I was on June 26, 2013 when the Supreme Court ruled that the official proponents of Prop 8 lacked standing… and voila, marriage equality had returned to California.  I remember calling my parents in New Hampshire (literally, from the toilet) and all of us crying together.  Tears of happiness.  Tears of equality and tears of joy.  It was still, however, the third time in my life that I had felt a lesser human than those around me.  Simultaneously, it was one of the most freeing moments of my life.   It’s a bit challenging to explain, but there it was. Do you remember where you were?

June 26, 2015
Today, I know exactly where I was when my mother left me the most amazing voicemail with tears of glee and enthusiasm in her voice, stating that I could get married in any damn state in the United States.  I was in the arms of my new love, preparing for the day.  At that moment, I truly felt equal for the first time in 12 years.  It was a breathe of fresh air.  Too bad I'm in the middle of an allergy attack and can barely breathe.  Where were you this morning?

It has been a truly amazing journey.  I want to personally thank everyone I know, all the lawyers, #SCOTUS, (well, 5 of them anyway), my friends, and my family for their unwavering support.  We could not have done this without you.

It has been an incredible day for social.  #LoveWins; #LoveAlwaysWins; #SCOTUS; and #All50.  Now, I do feel equal in the eyes of the law.  Now, our journey continues to shift the mentality of those individuals who might not yet agree with the ruling of today, but will change in time.

Now, how about those Transgender Rights?  We still need those!!

Love you all.  In amazing gratitude.

1)  I am happy to say that I have accepted a brand new BIG job.  Next week, I will start the transition to be the Head of U.S. HR for a children’s entertainment/toy company.  More to come…
2)  Happy Happy Father’s Day to all of the fathers out there.
3)  Stay tuned for my new website coming soon.  Woohoo!
4)  I am sooo excited to see “Inside Out” tonight with my new love.

Thursday, June 18, 2015

Five Moments That Make Me Feel ALIVE!

Evening, Everyone!

I wanted to share a more personal view into my life of late.  Here are some recent moments that have made me feel alive!!

1)  When my niece and nephew see me for the first time when I visit them.  Now, they run to me and give me the biggest hugs.  There is nothing else like that feeling in the world.

2)  The day you realize you are ready for true love.  This happened when I very recently fell back in love with a previous love in my life.  Taking it day-by-day, but feeling the effects of contentment, happiness, and pure unconditional love.  I feel blessed to have this new chapter in my life.

3)  When you receive a call from an organization like the American Widow Project, whose vision is to provide vital support to military widows with programs that UNIFY, EDUCATE, EMPOWER, and assist in rebuilding their lives in the face of tragedy.  They have asked me to facilitate workshops for them as a Bereavement/Grief Expert and Medium.  Chills all over.  So excited about this!!  Amazing work!  Absolutely incredible.

4)  When the HATE of one overwhelms, overpowers, and clouds the LOVE of all others.  The passion, the anger, and the shock that racism and inequality still exists within this human existence is such a mystery to me and makes me feel such a wide range of emotions.  I don't even know what to say anymore.

5)  The moment when you walk into your new home, realizing that there is no more harassment from former neighbors, no more police raids, no more concern about your tires being slashed, and a general sense of safety.  It is peaceful, great energy, solid roomies, and makes me feel rich - even though I'm paying less now for a 3 bedroom condo, than I was for a one bedroom apartment.  Woohoo!

I'm grateful tonight for my life.  I'm grateful tonight for my family and for the amazing love in my life.  Thank you, God.


1)  My heart and prayers go out to the families and the City of Charleston, South Carolina, where I have spent time myself.  Again, I don't even know what to say anymore.
2)  I'm excited to be spending some much needed time with my family on my East Coast Tour.  That's what I call it when I visit as many relatives as possible within 4-5 days.  Never a dull moment.
3)  I am teaming up with other bereavement organizations as well.  Lots to do.  Lots to say.  Did I mention I am being paid to do this??  Look out world, it's time!!
4)  Remember today, the more grateful for your life, the more amazing things will be born.

Thursday, June 4, 2015

Seven Things You Didn't Know You Needed to Remember Today...

Below, you will find Seven Ideas You Didn’t Know You Needed to Remember Today.

I always like to change it up a bit.  So, today, I am reminding you of some pearls of wisdom that you didn’t even know you needed to know and remember today.  Here it goes.  Enjoy…

I dedicate these thoughts to all of the Cat Lovers out there.  Happy #HugYourCatDay!!

1  – Every morning is a new opportunity to create yourself again.

2  – Every night is a great time to give thanks and be grateful for your life, your health, and your happiness.

3 – You attract what you are every day, not what you want.  So, if you want to attract the extraordinary, be extraordinary every single day.

4 – Everyone deserves a second chance.  Sometimes even a third one.

5 – The most powerful losses in love are only just preparing you for the most significant ones.

6 – Life is a series of disasters, disappointments, and detours.  Thank you, God, for that.  Appreciate every moment and turn those disasters into triumphs, turn those disappointments into technical experience, and turn the detours into trophy points.

7 – Instead of me, how about you come up with something we should all remember today?  I'm interested to see what you can add to this list?  List comments below or email me!!

1) Finally put some pictures up and hung some curtains in my new bedroom.  OMG.  I finally live here now.  I'm thankful for my apartment every day.
2) #CaitlynJenner – I have a lot of feelings about this, but GOD bless her!  She inspires!
3)  My website will be launching soon with a cute little video where I'm giving away a fun prize!!
4) #MyTherapistAdvised that I might not need her anymore.  I’m still trying to figure out how that makes me feel.  Is she dumping me?  Or am I ready?