Wednesday, September 26, 2012

WHY AM I SO HAPPY THIS BIRTHDAY? - I HAVE NO JOB!





I really don't understand why everyone love's the above "artistic" picture taken of me three weeks ago.  I think it's very apropos for my birthday blog, however.  So...yesterday was my birthday.  It was a fun day.  It was chill and i made sure at the end of the day, i was surrounded by all of my family here in Los Angeles.  I even got the amazing voicemail from my two-year-old nephew saying, Happy Birthday, Seth!  That was one of the bests.  It will be one of those messages you can never ever delete...well...until you get your new iphone5 or Samsung Galaxy whatever.

This year, i am feeling much happier than i thought i would.  Let me explain.  As you know, I am officially unemployed, searching for my next gig.  I have very little money to live on for the next month or so.  All that going on and i STILL feel damn good.  I am confident this will pass.   Good news:  I have had a couple interviews for full-time and part-time positions available.  Even though I am terrified that my money will run out sooner than later, I also know that I will secure the best thing possible soon.  I just know it and feel it!

Unlike what Suze Orman preaches, i am 34 and still haven't got together much of a savings.  That is my fault and it sucks.  I have lived paycheck-to-paycheck pretty much since 21 years of age.  Believe me, there have been times of riches and times of the Seth poverty-line, but I have always managed to have food and a place to live.  It is high-time to stop that pattern and start a new one.  Four years ago, when I turned 30, i cried my eyes out, because I had a shit-ton of debt and a job that really wasn't going anywhere.  Then, within three months, I shifted everything.  Now, i have very little debt, have two books on the way, a tv project getting started which could be HUGE, and lots of crazy-ass ideas for the future.  At least now at 34, i have a grand master plan.  I believe if it weren't for my book, my emotional support system, and my master plan, i would be very very disheartened.  And by the way, that's okay too!  Of course, as always, i will keep you updated.


HOW FACEBOOK GIVES BACK TO ME?
Yesterday, my 34th birthday, is officially my favorite date on Facebook.  As of today, i have 1,341 friends on Facebook.  It doesn't mean all that much (even though there's only about 10-15 "friends" i just thought were hot!), but yesterday meant something to me.  For the past four years, i have been watching the amounts of Happy Birthday Seths posted onto my wall.  Of course you know, there's the little box on the upper right hand corner which reminds you who's birthday it is.  And i know you all know that it takes about five seconds to send off a little Happy Birthday greeting to your acquaintance or friend.  I make it a ritual that every year and i actually "Like" each and every Happy Birthday post.  It means a lot to me.  Five seconds nowadays is like five minutes in the 80s, right?  And i appreciate those little moments.

Anyway...if you write a little something extra on my Facebook wall, i actually write a reply comment to your "little extra" post.  Two years ago, i was ecstatic with over 100 happy birthdays posted.  Last year, i was beyond myself with over 200 happy birthday wall posts.  This year... this year, i could not even keep up.  I am honest when i tell you that I have received over 350 happy birthday posts and counting, which technically is about 25% of all my friends.  I think that's awesome.  I was overwhelmed and humbled by the sheer amount of love.  I'd like to think that I am special.  On days like yesterday, I feel extremely special and unique.  Much love to you all.


STORYTIME:
Here's a little story that has been in my mind all week.  It is an excerpt from an article written by Alan Cohen on the website Heal Your Life:

A man walked into a restaurant with an ostrich and sat down for dinner. After their meal, the waitress delivered a check for $35.95. The man reached into his pocket, emptied all his bills and change, and came up with exactly $35.95 plus a 15% tip.
The following week the man and ostrich returned, and the same waitress served them. This time the check totaled $41.10. He emptied his pockets and miraculously took out exactly $41.10 plus a 15% tip.
Soon this became a weekly occurrence.
By now the waitress was quite curious. She told the man, “I am astounded, sir, that you take this ostrich to dinner here every week and you always have the exact amount of money to pay your tab plus a tip.  How do you do that?”
“It’s an amazing story,” the fellow explained. “Several years ago while I was cleaning my basement I found an old bottle. When I opened it, a genie emerged and told me I could have two wishes. My first wish was to always have enough money to buy anything I wanted. Now, wherever I go, I simply reach into my pocket and the exact amount of money is there. You have seen me buy my meals this way. I have also purchased a car, house, and vacations. No matter how much anything costs, I find the precise amount in my pocket or checkbook.”
“That’s astonishing!” replied the waitress. “And what was your second wish?”
“To marry a chick with long legs.”
You can pray for something specific and get it. Or you can pray for a quality of life and get that. Praying for specifics is risky, for you are dictating a form. Praying for essence guarantees reward, for you are seeking a satisfying experience.


Remember, it's all about willing and wishing for a quality of life and abundance thereof.  That makes all the difference and has worked wonders for me over the past birthday week.

FINAL THOUGHTS:
1)  Overnight, someone, unbeknownst to me, posted one of my blogs to Reddit.com about "Mrs. Legitimate Rape" and boom...i now have over 1600 views in a twenty-four hour period.  I can't find it, however!  :(
2) Oh yeah, and rest assured that over the next two days, i will peruse through all of my facebook wall posts and "Like" or Comment.  It is important for me to do this.
3) The PR Expert i met with last week thinks i got POTENTIAL.  Yay!  Meeting with him this evening to discuss my actual book that he read over the weekend.  I am very excited and very anxious.
4) Remember to dream big.  If you always shoot for the moon, you can easily still land in the stars.  Not a bad place, right?

Until next week...
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Wednesday, September 19, 2012

A SNEAK PEAK into "How I Learned to Smile From The Inside"!!!




"HOW I LEARNED TO SMILE FROM THE INSIDE"

I’m sure many of you, if not all of you, are curious about what my upcoming book is, right?   Therefore, it is high time I introduce you to my S.M.I.L.E. method for Healing.  It will be discussed at length in my upcoming book, “How I Learned to Smile From The Inside”, but right now, I’ll just give you the cliff’s notes version.  It’s going to be an awesome ride filled with laughter, witty comments, a little bit of wisdom, and a whole lot of heart.

I’m sure most of you are familiar with the Kübler-Ross Model, the Five Stages of Loss: Denial; Anger; Bargaining; Depression; and Acceptance.  In 1969, Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, after intense years of research in the areas of death, dying and grieving, wrote a book,“On Death and Dying” wherein she explained the aforementioned Five Stages of Loss.  She is considered to be the pioneer for the genre of death, dying, and palliative care, as we know it today.

In my tribute to September 11, 2001, I wanted to talk a little about my SMILE method for healing.  This is sort-of an update, if you will, or a makeover of the Kübler-Ross model.  Within the book, as I discuss each of the below concepts, I take you on my emotional process of healing with 5 different very personal stories, spread throughout the entire manuscript.  One of those stories is my personal experience during the September 11th attacks in New York City. 

S.M.I.L.E. Method:
S = Shock – A physical and mental block to an unexpected, upsetting, or heart-wrenching event
M = Mock-cceptance – Part Denial.  Part Acceptance.
I = In Overwheldom – Overwhelming emotional anarchy
L = Learning – The moment when responsibility and understanding meet
E = Embrace – It’s more than accepting the situation, it’s embracing the situation

I promise in reading my book, you will understand these concepts backward and forward.  Over the next two months, to help support and increase awareness for the release of “How I Learned to Smile From The Inside,” I will be keeping you updated week after week.  If you have any ideas for great Publicity, kindly let me know.  I'm looking into many many ways to get the word out there. As a matter of fact, today, i am meeting with a PR expert who can hopefully help me plan for the next couple years of my life!  Here's hoping!


FINAL THOUGHTS:

1)  I ended a great consulting position this week...and searching for my next either consulting or long-term position.  Clearly until i make it famous or sell 10,000 books on my own.  At 10,000 books, i could take two years off.  LOL.
2)  Life definitely has its ups and downs...and this week has been no exception.  I tend to distance myself when i'm down...i have a feeling many people do the same.  Reach out to me!  I would love to hear from you...and it challenges me to do better and be better.
3)  Quick Fab Gay Backyard update:  Vinnie and Trixie van Goat are doing well.  A little pudgier than we would like...they keep eating the chicken organic layer pellets.  Adam and I have been racking our brains for weeks.  Solution:  Just throw the chicken pellets on the ground.  Our goats are spoiled and will only eat from their special bucket or ANYTHING above their head level.  It's incredible.  Problem solved.
4)  Here's my favorite design for the chapter headings for my book.  Do you like the logo?





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Wednesday, September 12, 2012

TO CONDEMN OR NOT TO CONDEMN...OUTRAGE VS. DISAPPOINTMENT!

My new Logo!?!


Today, I am in a world of perplexion.  My iCloud/MacMail has been down for going on 30 hours now.  In other words, I have no email through my primary email.  That has been a trip!  It has been full of ups and downs.  I am waiting on a great deal of important emails…or at least it feels that way in my head.  I have actually had to call people instead of email them, it has been unreal.  What the hell did we do before email as a passive-aggressive individual?

Today, I was reminded by Romney’s disappointing comments with regard to the terrible attacks in Benghazi, Libya yesterday.  Not only do I think it in poor taste to make a political judgment on the Obama administration’s handling of the attacks to gain some momentum in the ratings, but I strongly disagree with the message he put forth last night: "When our grounds are being attacked and being breached ... the first response of the United States must be outrage."  To me, Romney’s comments are basically saying, We will NOT be treated like this and there WILL BE retaliation.  It’s a typical fear-based response.  It’s not coming from a place of strength, in my opinion, that’s defending from a place of weakness.

I do NOT believe in war, at all.  I do NOT believe that a resolution of violence is ever the answer.  I do NOT believe in the retaliation of arms.  Furthermore, anger and outrage only beget further anger and outrage.  A clear example of that mentality is evident in the hatred and disgust displayed by young Muslim’s in the Middle East.  Some are taught to hate the United States and the West for our “treatment” and “handlings” of certain Islamic countries or religious differences.  Those are such an unfortunate situations.  Don’t you agree?   What are we doing to thwart those belief systems in young people (as well as old) around the world, let alone the Middle East?  I know I make a conscious effort to be a great example of an American, everywhere I go.  Do you?

And as far as Obama goes…um…McKayla's not impressed.  Even condemning the attacks is a bit harsh, don’t you think?  Obama makes it sound like we will no longer TOLERATE that type of behavior without retaliation.  That’s what these extremist groups want.  They want to perpetuate fear of the masses.  They want to perpetuate the on-going idea that Americans and the West are the enemy.  My suggestion would be to stop giving them what they want: Attention and the further belief that they are strong in their cause.

Unfortunately, I believe neither party handled this well.  Can we not make it seem as though this is horrible AND we are deeply saddened.  At the end of the day, I’m not a politician nor a PR expert, so I really don’t understand the nuances behind how best to deal with these extremists.  Since this is my blog, though, I can voice my opinion and am open to other recommendations.  Please?

Emotionally speaking, anger can be a helpful response.  It’s how you know someone or something has hurt you, has disappointed you, or has triggered a response from you.  Instead of first offering a response of anger and outrage, why not offer a response of hurt and disappointment.  How about something like…We are disappointed that a small group within a nation, for whom we all wish success, given their recent history, would perpetuate further violence and oppression.  We are hurt and saddened by such behavior and acts against those who are only trying to do the best they can to help.  We extend our thoughts and prayers to all those involved, directly or indirectly, in these horrendous and unfortunate attacks.

How does that sound?  Wouldn’t that perpetuate feelings of togetherness, feelings of humility, and feelings of “this will not bring us down” without having to say such harsh words?  I don’t know, but I believe it would bring the world closer in unity rather than increasing the division.  What are your thoughts?


FINAL THOUGHTS:
1)     This weekend we attended another beautiful wedding here in Southern California.  Just wanted to let you all know that I was officially billed as an Honorary Bridesman in the wedding program. That is amazing! Thanks, B! 
2)      We have finished editing the book.  The Book Cover Photos last week came back fabulous.  I’m uploading final docs and logos today.  My book is still slated for a Halloween release.  So excited!!!
3)      Wanted to take a moment to once again appreciate you all for your constant support and thoughts regarding this blog and my upcoming book, How I Learned to Smile From The Inside.
4)      Next week, stay tuned for a sneak peak of my new upcoming book, “How I Learned to Smile From The Inside”!!!





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Tuesday, September 4, 2012

MY TRIBUTE TO THE DEMOCRATIC NATIONAL CONVENTION!!!




Wow!  Between Julián Castro, mayor of San Antonio, and First Lady Michelle Obama, I am truly inspired to be an American tonight.  Did you see her midnight blue nail polish?  Flawless.  As much as I would like to go on and on about how much i thought those two were unstoppable tonight, I won't.  Instead I will say if you have a moment, definitely check out their speeches on YouTube or CNN or ABCNEWS.


I believe our nation can be amazing!  I believe our nation can once again be the most incredible and inspirational nation of them all!  If I were an alien that came down to Earth (with complete comprehension of the English language), and I heard the speeches given this evening by those two amazing individuals, I would be intrigued, enthused, and encouraged to meet each and every American.  I would understand, without question, the indivisible truth that the pursuit of life, liberty, and happiness is very much alive here in the United States of America.  

Sometimes, i'm not always proud to be an American, especially when certain Americans give other Americans a poor name.  I always demand more.  I always exemplify better.   I don't know about every other American, but I strive, on a daily basis, to always be better, always work harder, and always be more compassionate to everyone in this world.  Let's be honest, the world needs a shitload of compassion.

I believe that when the forefathers of this nation declared their independence from the Brits in the late Eighteenth Century, they believed that we ARE created equal, all of us.  Did you hear that?  All of us.  No matter what your religion, race, sexual preference, gender identity, etc...  They knew then, at that point, over 225 years ago, that in order to advance, we need to stop augmenting the divide, and instead celebrate our similarities.  As we relish in our likeness, together we can conquer whatever comes our way.  Remember, united we stand!

I am constantly re-invigorated by the passion and life energy within human beings all around me.  At the same time, i am constantly baffled by the sadness and hurt for human beings all around me.  For this reason, i have a great mission in front of me as well as a challenge for the rest of you.  My vision is to Inspire the World, one by one, To Smile From The Inside.  I wholeheartedly invite you to do the same.  You are a fantastic person and it is your responsibility to spread the passion, love, and life energy that exists within you.  

FINAL THOUGHTS:

1)  On Wednesday, I am taking my book cover shots for my upcoming book, "How I Learned to Smile From The Inside" and I could not be happier...and i gotta admit, i'm a little nervous.  :)
2)  When was the last time you inspired someone else to smile?  If you have to think about it, do it now!  Do it tomorrow!  Do it ASAP!
3)  I don't know about you, but I am a great deal prouder this week being an American than i was last week.  I was very disappointed last week by the RNC.  Anyone else?



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